Possessiveness is not love

Jealousy is not love

Lust is not love

Fear is not love

Keeping people all to yourself is not love

Expecting something from someone is not love

To love someone unconditionally means that you love the person exactly as they are, exactly as they were before, and exactly as they will be in the future – because people change all the time, so if you love the person, you will love them even if they become something you disagree with. How many parents can say that about their kids? How many people can say that about their “lover”? Love is not about you or your pleasure or your amusement. It’s not about what you get out of it or what the other person can give to you. It’s not about having a trophy you can show off with and tell people “This is *MY* girlfriend/ boyfriend/ wife/ husband/son/daughter/whatever”. You do not “own” anyone. It’s not about you feeling ‘proud’ to be with someone who always agrees with everything you say and do and never does anything you disagree with. Unconditional love means that the person can just live their life exactly as they choose and you will always be there for them no matter what.

Unconditional love is more of a spiritual thing. It’s not bound by physical things, like blood relations and the desire to procreate. It has nothing whatsoever to do with sex. Most people are in relationships because they’re horny and/or lonely, even if they genuinely think they love the other person. But if the person they “love” suddenly lost their “equipment” for whatever reason, would they still want to be with that person? Would they get jealous if the person they “love” wanted to spend time with other people as well? Relationships based on needs are not unconditional.

In order to truly understand love, you must first forget everything you have ever learned about it from society and anyone else (including what I just said). You are the only person who can tell you what love is. The only reason I’m writing all this stuff is because people always try to fit “love” in with things like dating, relationships and marriage and all that. You can’t make any sense of it if you keep doing that. You have to get rid of everything you think you know first.

A student asks a teacher, "What is love?"The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the biggest wheat and  

come 

back.  

But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick." 

The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big wheat, but he wonders... may be there is a 

bigger one later. 

Then he saw another bigger one... But may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him.

Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he start to realize that the wheat is not as big as the

previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted.

So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.

The teacher told him, "this is love... You keep looking for a better one, but when later you realise, you have

already miss the person..."

"What is marriage then?" the student asked.

The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and

come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."

The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach

the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher.

The teacher told him, "This time you bring back a corn. You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith

and believe this is the best one you get... This is marriage."

nhe tahun sia spending masa sama si hubby...makan saja tym 31hb nhe..astagaaaa...semua gara2 si hubby lah nhe...menyurung makanan saja..hahhaaa...kami pg sepitang..mencari sate sama buntut ayam...kenyang sia makan buntut bah sana...si hubby beli lagi sate 40 cucuk untuk kami dua orang makan..astagaaaaaa

nda juga telampau sedap lah sate sepitang...indah kabar dari rupa....or may be sia pernah makan sate yg lebih sedap..sate kajang jauh lebih sedap dr yg sepitang punya...sia rasa lah...  :)

sepanjang perjalanan pergi beaufort dari sepitang..sia makan2 buntut ayam...sedap...tebal...b'lemak...hahahaa..kc suap2 lagi si hubby tp dia bilang nda sedap..heran..ah..peduli...yg penting sia suka...yahuuuu

sampai rumah si hubby suruh buat pilihan...maw makan nasi besa kah nasi lemak..sia bilang nasi lemak..baiklah...."mari makan sama tempoyak durian" dia bilang....ainahhhhh...1st tym sia makan tempoyak....not bad..heheee

tym maw pulang mum si hubby kc bawa lagi jeruk tempoyak..siap ajar amcm maw masak lagi...heheeee...ehhhh...ada lagi lupa....makan mangga sama belacan..ya ampunnnnn..sedappp!!!!!

nah....makan mangga..tp mangga yg kami makan lagi besar....apa lagi...projek mangga bah trus sama si anne...sambil minum2 kopi sama air bunga lagi....paling hibat! muahahhahaa

b4 pulang si hubby bawa makan durian lagi..tp  btul2 nda larat udah...so bilang beliau dia..bawa pulang....kc masuk dalam kotak....nah....sepanjang perjalanan sampai tuaran..wangi2 bah e2 durian di bonet kereta..wakakakaa....sandih!!

sampai gereja...sambung lagi steam boat..astagaaaaaaa...lepas tue makan sate lagi...yg paling manang....jagung bakar!!!campur madu..adoiiiiiii

belum cukup e2....makan lagi..jeng..jeng..jeng....udang bakar! campur madu bah kena bakar...astagaaa....sedap!!

muntah saja tidak saya kekenyangan...hahaaa....tp nda payah risau....ada juga tea mix herbalife....okay juga...nda risau untuk jadi gamuk...muahahahahah..bisuk2 minum jak tue...

apa yg penting masa makan...HAPPY sama TAHU DIRI..hahahaa...then sia kc end sia punya 31.12.2012 dengan tidur...lena kekenyangan..hihi

Nice my picture kan....sya ambil studio di kingfisher sana..e2 pun lepas membinggungkan diri maw memilih mana satu studio yg terbaik....masa dekat2 konvo nhe..ya ampun....duit kering sekering-keringnya..apa nda..baru balik dari melancong..adoi...mcm2 maw diurus..pening..pening..pening..tp nasib sia ada geng karas maw p mengurus semua..siuk!

Nhe lah kawan2 sia yg paling setia masa maw p mengurus..p membayar..p celebrate..p photoshoot...heheee...at least sia keluar dr ums..sia ada geng karas...hahaaa...mcm2 maw bayar bah..jadi nasihat untuk yg bakal konvo...simpan2 lah duit ahh..trust me!!

kelam kabut sampai ums dapat parking yg jauhhhh..maw 1km berjalan...astagaaaa...n yg paling lucu di dunia...pasal kelam kabut...sia pakai jubah terbalik...paling budu di dunia lah orng pakai jubah terbalik bah kan..hahahaa..nasib b4 masuk perarakan sia sedar jubah sia terbalik..kelam kabut kc bgus trus bah..hahahaa..

Nah...nhe lah moment yg paling sweet..berdebar2 bah naik atas pentas...bangga sia sebab parents sia tinguk sia...and pointer sia pun bukan alang2 juga.. 3.52 cgpa sia...antara yg paling tinggi juga..padahal student mcm sia susah maw cakap..balik2 buat masalah..balik2 langgar peraturan etika guru..hahaha...bravo NELVENIA!!!!

nah...nhe lah orng2 yang sharing my joy..keluarga sia..yaaaaa...semua siblings sia..at least sia bagi contoh sama adik2 sia...sia harap darang ikut juga jejak sya sama abang sulung sia.... sayangggg kamu semua  :)

nhe lah sumber inspirasi sya...daddy sama mama...and yg paling siuk...sia buat darang bangga sama anak darang..wp sia ada melawan sket di rumah tp at least sia bg somthing untuk darang...drng bg semua yg sia maw..duit,kereta, baju and yg paling hibat..drng bg sya kasih sayang...nw turn sya lagi maw bg somthing untuk darang  :)

nah yg nhe...hubby sia yg ensomboy dan tagap...heheee..3 bulan b4 konvo lagi sia udah kc ingat sia..kalo dia nda dtng konvo sia..sia merajuk 1 tahun sia bilang..hahahaa...and mmg impian sia dr kecik (telampau tinguk movie kali) yg sia maw waktu sia konvo...fmly sia semua ada and sia punya bf ada sama sia..bukan bf cikai2...tp stay boyfriend...and betul lah..sia keluar ums..bawa sijil sama my true love  :)

photoshoot sana studio SPPS

Outdoor Photoshoot 

After Graduation 

Last outdoor photoshoot

My siblings